Spirituality for Health and Happiness: Marcomé’s Journey

November 6, 2009 by  
Filed under Well Being & Self Growth

riverofsoul_cover_150Through my music and on Twitter, I wish to convey my core values in an inviting & uplifting way. Spirituality became a  key to my well-being. Health and happiness are secondary- the most important is How do I accompany myself in the good, in the turmoil of life! As a vocal artist, my feelings and emotions come through my work. I have a saying: I’m the first person I wake up with, I’m the last I go bed with, better be my best friend!

 

Journey to spirituality, health and happiness (image from chakrawanderlingen on Flickr)

Journey to spirituality, health and happiness (image from chakrawanderlingen on Flickr)

What area(s) of your spiritual/emotional life have you decided to change and why?

I came to realize that happiness comes from within… in other words, its not dependent on what is happening in your life (from marriage, a job, to having children, or more). This was a particularly difficult lesson to learn as I went through two divorces years ago. Finally, after much work, I was able to find emotional autonomy:

Nature and self help books were not enough to cure my inner self anymore. I started getting help from a counselor who brought me to realize that happiness is a state of being; it’s a decision to become responsible to take care of your needs…all of them! You don’t rely on external conditions anymore to provide yourself with care, love, food etc. Unfortunately, we’re shown the opposite most of the time in movies and on television series where people are perfect, rich, fusional, always have make up even when they get out of bed in the morning! I call it the Snow White syndrome. The consumerism preaches, “You are what you possess, your status in society, your job, your body, your beauty!”

One of the things I realized during this spiritual and emotional growth is that I do not help myself by thinking in “black and white,” instead of seeing the shades of gray that exist in life. I finally started to see that my own thoughts were chipping away at my potential for happiness. As I stated:

The sole permanent thing in life is the energy that keeps us alive, not the events of life. I often say, ‘you don’t have all the choices about what life brings you, but you have choices on how you will act on what’s there‘ Will you be helpful? Will you pick yourself up and be understanding, encouraging like you would do for others? If not, realize that you feed self-destructing ways of thinking; this is the absence of love…not love!

The flower doesn't question its circumstances: it just is (image from allyaubry on Flickr)

The flower doesn’t question its circumstances: it just is (image from allyaubry on Flickr)

What strategies have you implemented to change, who inspired you, person or organization, book, etc.?

I think that part of what me inspired me to change was merely the fact of some difficult life circumstances and learning how to grow as a result. My motto is “You are what you think, so be aware of what feeds your brain on a daily basis.”

Spirituality cannot be dictated. Each person must find what feed their own soul, whether spending time outdoors, painting, photography, or making music. Sometimes, a healthy escape into a book or a funny movie can change your perspective.

In order to keep track of my inner state, I spend time in silence everyday. I practice awareness. Being spiritual to me is awakening more and more and putting to practice what I read and meditate. I use writing if I’m facing challenges, I confess to my journal, read it back and use the logic of love to welcome my inner child or immature ego who has misconceptions about life and itself.

I find that it always helps to talk. Find a trusted friend, a spouse, or even a paid professional. Pray. Write in a journal. Above all else, remember that you are not alone.

You are never alone!  (image from Pink Sherbert Photography on Flickr)

You are never alone! (image from Pink Sherbert Photography on Flickr)

How have the changes benefited your overall life, happiness up to this point?

I have to say that this question tapped into a huge turning point for me. When I realized that I alone am responsible for my own happiness and meeting my needs, it was undoubtedly a watershed moment, and very empowering!

One by one, all the situations of the past that used to make me upset or anxious or apparently fighting with life went through an awareness process. Do I still want to treat myself like this? Is my way of looking at this situation helping me, or destroying me? Am I realistic in my expectations toward others? Could my parents have done differently really?

Let yourself be: free and happy (image from alicepopkorn on Flickr)

Let yourself be: free and happy (image from alicepopkorn on Flickr)

What message do you have for others who are struggling or embarking on a similar journey?

Wow – there is so much to share! The most important thing I believe is that you are not alone. Yet, it is critical to remember that happiness (or any emotional state) comes from within and is not a result of your external circumstances. Consider this:

The good news is that you’re not your past, your lost spouse, job, and sickness. Your capacity to love in the now is apparently locked by fear, deception that is part of a survival mechanism. This is normal. As a kid, you had to find ways to evolve in the absence of love and approval at times. So we all develop strategies to survive. For example: “I’m stupid that’s why my father treats me like that, that’s my fault.”

If you want to move on from a hurtful past, you must grieve the child you were – the child you still are! Embrace that person and then become a parent to him or her. This is how you can start emotional healing. Love yourself in the way that you have always desired. In short, I believe that “success relies on unconditional acceptance of what life brings you”.

Breathe deeply, relax and discover the inner you (image from shazwan on Flickr)

Breathe deeply, relax and discover the inner you (image from shazwan on Flickr)

 

Self-help books

Here is a collection of books and films I keep on using to feed my soul with positive energies and good influences:

1. You Can Heal Your Life by Louise Hay

2. Naomi’s Breakthrough Guide: 20 Choices to Transform Your Life by Naomi Judd

3. Don’t Stop At Green Lights; Every Woman’s Guide to Taking Charge of Her Life and Fulfilling Her Dreams by Peter A. Wish

4. What the Bleep Do We Know!?

If you enjoyed this post, be sure to check out Musical Sounds in Nature and Connecting Spirituality with Sustainability.

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Thanks for your comments. Marcomé

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19 Responses to “Spirituality for Health and Happiness: Marcomé’s Journey”
  1. Philip Whittingham says:

    Hi, a lovely article, well written and useful.

    I found you through twitter and I feel I must compliment you on such a lovely, useful article. It’s obvious that a lot of dedication and work has gone into producing it.

    Thank you for taking the time in producing an article with philosophies that are very close to my heart.
    Be well and best wishes, Phil x

  2. Hi, so what did you write beautiful :)

  3. Beautiful…and touching because so right, only finding happiness within. Sometimes, I wish it wasn’t so difficult, but we do have the tools of books and film and blogs to assist us with the discovery to spiritual happiness. Thanks

    • marcome says:

      Thank you! I really like Norman Doidge’s book call the Brain that changes itself. Really inspiring. Otherwise, Eckhart Tolle, Pema Chodron and What the Bleep do we Know have been part of my life in the last few years! I’m grateful we leave in an era of abundant and easy to find knowledge.

  4. Happiness is the goal of every human being in this planet , everyone wants to be happy*,.

    • marcome says:

      Thanks for your input! I guess we all know we want happiness but some of us seems to be wired for suffering.. every time I travel I realize we’re all more or less disconnected from our divine heritage.. Let’s persevere in love!

  5. Jason Rivera says:

    everyone really wants to be happy in their lives, we have very short lives to fully enjoy things in this world.”`~

    • marcome says:

      Yes you’re so right, the funny thing though is that sometimes very unconsciously we push what we desire because of our thinking habits.. I had to face this in my own life and was shocked when ‘my truth was brought to light’! I wish you a soothing day! xxMarcomé

  6. Happiness is a state of mind that really depends how we see the situations in our lives each day. you can have all the riches in the world but still see it as a lonely place.:~,

    • marcome says:

      Tkank you sweet Soul! I totally agree, we don’t control what life brings us entirely but we sure can choose how we act on it! Happy next hours, Marcomé xx

  7. Hi!

    I’ve known Evita for over a year now. Her blog rocks. Welcome to the circle of evolving beings (yep, I was interviewed in the series, too)

    It’s wonderful you are expressing your spirituality through your music. Many blessings to you,

    Akemi

  8. Theodore says:

    Beautiful words. Yes, the path of healing and self discovery can often seem full of contradictions. Yet, as some Buddhist believe, it is within the contradictions that lie the truth. For example:

    We are never alone and are all connected – yet, we are solely responsible for our own reality and are our own mother & father.
    The true teacher is found only within us – yet, everyone that crosses our path is our teacher.

    Such apparent contradictions hide great truths. As you mention, when we discover them, we stop seeing our experiences as black or white. They all have a certain perfection, and a perfect timing.

  9. Leo Waighen says:

    Yes, I totally agree with you Marcomé…Life is a steep learning curve and only very seldom we get opportunities or options to make it better or to change the walk of life completely…it takes spiritual strategies and unbiased unprejudiced thinking we lack so many times to get back on track and be really happy…Our neverending struggle for a higher material life standard takes us nowhere if we can’t see the bright horizon calling us to relax, recover inner peace and watch things falling onto place because we SEE them right and want to change our perception of things around….If we succeed and develop a new vision of the world, of course the world will remain the same but it will be reflected within us as a new smiling universe full of Love, Sunshine and Kindness..as soon as we start writing these word with capital letters …the world will never be the same….at least for us…Do it now…do it today….
    Leo Waighen

  10. marcome says:

    I believe in love and I like this saying: Love, and do what you want from St-Augustin Tks Leo for uplifting my stream! Marcomé xx

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